School Mobbing and Emotional Abuse
See It Stop It Prevent It With Dignity and Respect
Table of Contents
Part 1
Essays on Mobbing: Causes, Symptoms, Prevention Tactics
Foreword by Thomas Golden, LCSW
Preface
Ready For School
Prologue that includes definitions of violence, dignity and respect, and
integrity and promotes the concept of developing insight and awareness.
Introduction To School Mobbing and Emotional Abuse
Explains what Mobbing is, includes examples and an invitation to take action.
Mobbing Is .. checklist
Defines Mobbing
The Quiet Terror That Puts Everyone At Risk
Background information on Mobbing, origin of the term, early research, consequences to the
individual and to others.
The Mobbing Syndrome -
Individual factors that join in combination to produce mobbing phenomena.
10 Key Factors of Mobbing Checklist
Why Do Others Join In? checklist
Reasons that others participate
Chicken Pecking
Describes the barnyard behavior that resembles mobbing,
Similarities and differences with regard to the impact on the target and reactions of the perpetrators.
The Targeted Person Checklist of feelings and behaviors
To Be Or Not To Be
Explains how the mobbing process develops and the lack of awareness that causes others to join in.
Mobbing Awareness Questions checklist
Are you a mobber? Do you
Behaviors exhibited by people involved in mobbing.
Zero Tolerance
Addresses the downside of inflexible policies that target the symptoms but not the root
cause of mobbing/bullying behavior. Explains how the interpretation of such policies can
further victimize targets of mobbing/bullying behavior. Provides examples and scenarios as illustration,
points out inequities, problems, and offers solutions.
"We Don't Do That Here" Promoting Dignity and Respect
Creating 'safe zones' within classrooms, modeling dignity and respect behavior. Gives examples.
If You Think You See Mobbing checklist
Actions that school employees can take to help.
"Will No One Help Me?"
Parents in Turmoil
What school officials can do to understand and take seriously complaints about behavior.
"See No Evil, Speak No Evil"
Parents in Denial
What school officials can do to deal with resistance on the part of some parents.
Terrorism and Hostages
Explains how mobbing terrorizes an individual and how the student is trapped by both the dynamics of
the syndrome and the school system.
Touches on the extremes of both suicide and violence.
Discusses personality changes that occur and how these can result in violent behavior.
Signs of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder checklist
Why Mobbing is a Form of Terrorism
Creating a Still Small Voice Ethics education
Some students do not have a sense of 'conscience' that holds them back from behavior that is hurtful
to others.
Self Questions and Statements checklist
A list for students to monitor their actions and communication, and to help develop a sense of
awareness.
Awareness is the Key To Prevention
Explains that a mob cannot form if people do not participate, that most people engage in the
behavior without realizing it, that targets do not realize that they are not alone or the only one affected.
Addresses parent and teacher behaviors that exemplify and condone mobbing/bullying behavior on the part of students.
Gives examples and scenarios such as parent behavior at athletic events, teachers gossiping about and
targeting individual students.
"If I See Someone Being Mobbed, How Can I Help?" Checklist
Includes what students can say and things to do. Takes into account that the student may be afraid of being
a target.
Outrageous Suggestions
Teaching dignity and respect to the 'cool kids.'
Addresses the impact of the 'elitist groups' in schools and their behavior toward others.
Similarity Training a new twist on diversity training
Stereotypes:
A Two Dimensional Way of Looking at a Multi-Dimensional World
How stereotypes can contribute to violence. For insight and awareness and to use with students.
Student Discussion Facilitation Questions
Fifty four questions organized in a progression to promote discussion.
Designed to develop student awareness and for school officials to determine the climate of
mobbing/bullying behavior and the potential for violence.
A tool for evaluating the effectiveness of programs that are already in place to discourage this type
of behavior.
Making Restitution
Discusses the importance of apology and for the behavior to stop.
The healing power of forgiveness.
Promoting dignity and respect, insight and awareness
Dignity and Respect, No Exceptions
Key Points to include in school programming that promote positive attitudes, better communication,
self-esteem, insight and awareness, and establish trust.
Summary of Recommendations and Strategies
Part 2
Food For Thought
Essays that promote dignity and respect, insight and awareness.
Can be used in the classroom to promote discussion or as a launch point for student opinion writing.
Can be included in parent and teacher publications for perspective and to promote a school philosophy of dignity and respect.
Author permission to reprint included.
The Magic That Is You
Appreciating who you are "warts and all."
Crossing The Bridge To Forgiveness
The importance of forgiveness and a technique to use.
A Hard Lesson in Dignity and Respect
Separating people from their behavior.
Always A Winner
The value of competing with oneself rather than others.
Lasting Gifts
The intangibles of life that give the tangibles meaning.
Beyond Behavior
What a person does is not always an indication of who a person is.
Life in the Biosphere
Supporting life and growth rather than culture.
Seven Points to Ponder
Simple quotes and their deeper meanings.
Remember Who You Are
Defining oneself by an inner standard rather than outer circumstances.
The Accidental Mentor
Everyone sets an example for others.
It's Yours
Keeping focus on the goal without distractions.
Closing the Door on FUD
The three headed monster of Fear, Uncertainty and Doubt.
When Work Is Play
Successful people usually are doing what they love.
Just Take It!
Learn to say thank you.
Personal Heroes
Heroes are usually not aware of the fact that they are heroes.
Illusions
Look beyond the first impression to find the truth.
Listen
True listening is the language of acceptance.
Head Coach
No matter how many roles you play, you are the Head Coach of your life.
My Job Is
A job is a role that we accept and upon which we decide to act.
Got Gattitude?
How to develop a gratitude attitude.
Feet Don't Fail Me Now!
It takes longer to regain focus than it takes to lose it.
Anger is a Secondary Emotion
Anger is triggered by hurt, pain, fear, or some other emotion.
Mended Heart
It's easier to have a broken arm than a broken heart.
Just As Good
You are no better than anyone else, but you are just as good!
It's Not Easy Being
Discovering your purpose by appreciating who you are.
Stray, Imperfect, Needy
Appearance is not what is true, valuable, and lasting.
I Wish They Knew
None of us are completely what we appear to be.
Epilogue "Courage"
Defines courage and includes a story of a student taking a stand.
Part 3
Appendix, Resources, Eplilogue
Appendix ERIC article on Zero Tolerance
Resources
Books and websites that contain helpful information
About the Author
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